Less is more. More is better. So, what’s best?

Ever feel life is a dichotomy? Equal parts light and darkness, yin/yang, illusion/reality? If so, you’re on the path to enlightenment.

Most of us were conditioned to want only good, the more the better, and to project that perfect image to the world. You know, the Facebook image vs what life really looks like, which truly contains both the FB-picture moments and the not-so-picture-worthy moments.

Yet “equal parts” means balance, which is why light and dark, yin and yang, illusion vs reality are spiritual concepts to embrace, not fear.

A well-known Buddhist tenet is that attachment is the source of all suffering—as in attachment to a specific outcome or desire. Because of our conditioned, skewed expectations, when real life shows up to give us equal parts of seemingly opposite things, there’s a tendency to panic. We feel incomplete or insecure because our truth does not match the image of what we been trained to expect in order to be whole, to have it “all.”

But life on Earth is dualistic,…